Don't hate me because I'm ...

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She wrote something great called "Don't hate me because I'm..."

thin. Or fat. Or tall. Or petite. Or blond. Or… any other physical attribute.

Prejudice, based on someone’s appearance, is an interesting thing. Let’s start with weight prejudice. Studies show that there is clear bias against very overweight people. And I am sure some of you have experienced it. The reaction can range from just a sideways look when you put cookies in your grocery cart, to a request for a new seat when next to you on an airplane, to not hiring you for a job. But weight bias goes the other way too. Against thin people. Sometimes we look at them and hate them for being what we aren’t. We curse the genetic lottery that surely graced them with the fast metabolism that we lack. Or we assume they can’t have any issues with food or struggles in life.

I’m short. Does this mean I must have a Napoleon complex? Tall people earn more money, are more likely to advance in the workplace, and are more likely to become President of the US! And everyone assumes that just because you’re tall you must play basketball.

Do you look at a blond woman and think she has more fun? Or that she is as dumb as the classic jokes? I’m a redhead… I can’t tell you how many times people have commented that I must have a fiery temper. I DO NOT! (Kidding.) Several famous actresses have dyed their hair for roles – some go blond to get the sexy girl parts; some go brunette to get the serious girl parts. Does Hollywood have it right that we can’t see past hair color to the woman inside?

And what about our biases based on how attractive (or unattractive ) a person is. Many books are written on the subject of attractive people getting more in life. Not just more money and better jobs, but even better service in a store.

Have you ever looked at someone and known you wouldn’t like her just because of her appearance? Was she too pretty, too sloppy, too expensively dressed, too made up? Did you get to know her anyways? I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes I look at someone and make a judgment. Especially if she is beautiful and looks like she would have snubbed me in high school – a former-cheerleader with her designer jeans and purse, fabulous shoes, perfectly coiffed hair, gleaming white teeth in a tan face that never knew a pimple; perfect from head to toe. But some of my best friends wouldn’t have passed my initial “first impression” bias test so I am learning to suspend judgment.

So please don’t hate me when I’m skinny. Or stop reading. Overweight or at goal, fat or thin – don’t think we can’t relate and share experiences because we look different. The outside package doesn’t change the person on the inside. But I sure am looking forward to the outer change:)

good thoughts from Waisting Time

Here is a post i found from Karen @ waistingtimeblog.com - She has some great things to say!

“Don't Hate Me Because I'm…”

thin. Or fat. Or tall. Or petite. Or blond. Or… any other physical attribute.

Prejudice, based on someone’s appearance, is an interesting thing. Let’s start with weight prejudice. Studies show that there is clear bias against very overweight people. And I am sure some of you have experienced it. The reaction can range from just a sideways look when you put cookies in your grocery cart, to a request for a new seat when next to you on an airplane, to not hiring you for a job. But weight bias goes the other way too. Against thin people. Sometimes we look at them and hate them for being what we aren’t. We curse the genetic lottery that surely graced them with the fast metabolism that we lack. Or we assume they can’t have any issues with food or struggles in life.

I’m short. Does this mean I must have a Napoleon complex? Tall people earn more money, are more likely to advance in the workplace, and are more likely to become President of the US! And everyone assumes that just because you’re tall you must play basketball.

Do you look at a blond woman and think she has more fun? Or that she is as dumb as the classic jokes? I’m a redhead… I can’t tell you how many times people have commented that I must have a fiery temper. I DO NOT! (Kidding.) Several famous actresses have dyed their hair for roles – some go blond to get the sexy girl parts; some go brunette to get the serious girl parts. Does Hollywood have it right that we can’t see past hair color to the woman inside?

And what about our biases based on how attractive (or unattractive ) a person is. Many books are written on the subject of attractive people getting more in life. Not just more money and better jobs, but even better service in a store.

Have you ever looked at someone and known you wouldn’t like her just because of her appearance? Was she too pretty, too sloppy, too expensively dressed, too made up? Did you get to know her anyways? I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes I look at someone and make a judgment. Especially if she is beautiful and looks like she would have snubbed me in high school – a former-cheerleader with her designer jeans and purse, fabulous shoes, perfectly coiffed hair, gleaming white teeth in a tan face that never knew a pimple; perfect from head to toe. But some of my best friends wouldn’t have passed my initial “first impression” bias test so I am learning to suspend judgment.

So please don’t hate me when I’m skinny. Or stop reading. Overweight or at goal, fat or thin – don’t think we can’t relate and share experiences because we look different. The outside package doesn’t change the person on the inside. But I sure am looking forward to the outer change:)

weigh in this week

so i did really great since last thursday and this week.

weigh-in this week: -7 pounds

only 107 pounds left to lose :)

I'm feeling great, and this is something that i need to do, and want to do! I want to better myself, better my health, and better my image of myself.

I want to be who i want to be, when i have my new start in Austin!
I am on my way to who i believe God wants me to be, and who i've always, deep down, wanted to be :)

ONE DAY AT A TIME!

i heart this quote before i can't remember from who though .... "If you want to get what you've never gotten before, you have to do what you've never done before!"

whoa. major realizations this weekend.

So i'm moving to Austin in 5 months or there abouts, and i'm soooo excited.
New friends, new adventures, new city to figure out, new people to love where they're at.

I need to work on somethings myself. I'd really been slacking on my weight loss the last month, school has been a majorrrrr stressor, and will continue to be until i pass NCLEX-PN and get a job! So i've got to learn to handle my emotions and stress in the RIGHT WAY. But this weekend in Austin, was a major realization for me in several ways.

I'm tired of being the fat sister, i'm tired of having to shop in the fat people store, i'm tired of feeling like people are staring at me, and i'm just plain tired of being lazy, and not having any energy to do anything, and i'm tired of being cranky when i'm with my family, due to their wanting to do things, and me wanting to be lazy, eat, or sleep. ENOUGH. I've had enough of this! And whoa that was a seriously awesome run-on sentence :)

So back to commitment, and asking God for the grace and courage each day to persevere, and to not stuff my face emotionally. So far the last 2 days since i've been home have been great. I normally when i get home sit in the living room and veg out, but the last 2 days even when i walk through the living room, i feel tempted to eat my face off, so i am doing my best to avoid that temptation, and staying away from the living room / kitchen as much as possible!

I'll be moving to a city, and i want to have a fresh start. I want to be who God created me to be, and not just some lazy person. I'm ready to be free, and loving, and happy and genuine about it, and not just faking it. Okay so i don't fake it normally, but lately i've just been way stressed out, and have not wanted to hangout or go anywhere. Not cool. Not me.

As always, frequent encouragement is greatly appreciated :)

off the chest.

So it's been quite a while, dear blog.
LPN school has kept me crazy busy but i surely love it and will continue to keep me busy for the next 6 months until graduation, and i study for and pass the NCLEX! yays.

Just felt like i needed to get some things off my chest.
Life is great. I've decided that after graduation i'm moving to Austin! I'm very much excited about this new adventure, and life, and exciting things that will be going on.
Louisiana is great, don't get me wrong, but i feel like it's something that i need to do. I don't want to look back on life and have any regrets. SO go big or go home!

But on the other hand ... lately i've been having some frustration issues with my close friends. They're either married and pregnant, or following God's call to a religious or consecrated vocation. I feel very alone at times, and not included. I feel like they all have these great plans set out and know what they want to do. And i just get upset and aggrevated, and i feel that i get left out, and no one really wants to spend time with me.. I feel at times, that everyone else is just too busy for me.

but that's just my frustrations as of late. Oh well, life goes on and i'll manage. I'm just slightly nervous about making new friends in Austin, good like my best friends here. I'll just have to find a place i belong, which i think i found. Thank you, http://www.catholic20somethings.com/ for hopefully that place for me to belong :)

I'm aching for adventure and new fun, can't wait to rock this shit!

happy weekend.
keep it real, blogsphere.

life changes :)

Well some things in my life have happened lately, and i've decided that i seriously need to take a look at some things and make some changes. So i'm starting one step at a time and taking it one day at a time.

I've finally come to realize that i have a problem with food, and this is the first step to fixing the problem. I've got fed up with it, and an doing something about it. One day a time, one step at a time. Losing one pound at a time the right way, is the only way to make any lasting change.

So here's to making lasting and lifestyle changes.

More to come later .....

+Brittany

April already?

Wow! It's been almost 3 months! I wish i knew where God was leading me and where God wants me! All i can do is pray, pray, and then pray some more! I want to much to be a mother and having a loving and committed husband and family, i still on the otherhand still feel called at times to be a Sister. I love the accountability and schedule and pray life of community.

Life sure is interesting. BEing a school does not leave a whole lot of room for discernment or prayer life for that matter. So prayers would be greatly appreciated.

Still trying to grow in holiness. I love being the only virgin in my class at school, it's something i love and highly value, and would not give it up for anything! It's a wonderful gift that God has blessed to me have.